Man On Top v Coital Alignment Technique?
Fundamentals Of Good Sex
Successful and happy sex involves understanding and co-operation from both partners. There is nothing one-sided about it. (Read this about meeting your partner’s sexual needs.) Equally, there is no solution for sexual problems to be found by using a particular sexual technique. That includes the coital alignment technique, successful though it is in providing a woman with sexual fulfillment and orgasmic pleasure! It’s important to realize successful sex is a product of harmony and co-operation, not just good techniques and positions.
First of all, a man does not have sole responsibility for successful sex, or for bringing his woman to orgasm. His woman is equally responsible for every aspect of a successful sexual relationship. In particular, good communication is essential so that a couple can come more fully to understand what each other want.
With good communication, a man can quickly understand how to accommodate the many facets of his woman’s sexuality. And a woman can show she is sensitive and alert to her man’s sexual needs.
For example, in most men sexual desire rises quickly. Sometimes a man is ready for intercourse immediately. At other times it takes a little while before he has a full erection. The extent of this delay varies from one man to another and also from time to time in the same man. But, he will almost always want penetration before his partner. This difference needs to be accommodated, and it is here where the coital alignment technique can be very helpful.
However, when a man urgently desires sexual relief, consideration of his partner’s wishes can sometimes take second place to satisfaction of his own sexual needs! This is especially true if the couple wish to use a specific technique like the coital alignment technique rather than the simple missionary position or man on top intercourse.
Good communication can save a couple from conflict in such a situation. For there is certainly something significantly anxious about the sexual attitudes and feelings of a lot of men towards women.
Arousal and Desire
A man must take the time to bring his woman to the height of her arousal and desire. A great way to do this is by using the coital alignment technique to ensure she experiences a gradual but continuous increase in her level of arousal. It’s important that she tells her man during their lovemaking what she does and does not like, and lets him know from time to time by direct or indirect communication how her desire is rising.
Any couple must usually expect to take plenty of time during lovemaking if it is to be successful — in other words, if the woman is to be aroused enough to enjoy penetration and reach orgasm.
A good way to start making love is for a couple to lie together in each other’s arms. They will find that presently a great sense of tenderness and love envelops them. Then they naturally start to kiss, and their kisses soon become deeper. They open their lips and their tongues come into contact, which is stimulating for both.
Then the man’s hands begin to wander over his woman’s entire body until he begins to concentrate his attention on her more sensitive areas. Different women find particular parts of their bodies are very responsive, for example their buttocks or backbone or their ears or under the sides of their arms. Sure, women vary, but they should always let their man know where these places are.
Most women enjoy it when their man fondles their breasts gently, touching and kissing the nipples. As her desire is aroused, excitement begins to intensify, the woman embraces her lover more ardently and moves against him.
She no longer lies quiet, contentedly enjoying the touch of his hands and his body, but begins to reciprocate by caressing him. And rightly so, for an excited woman arouses a man in turn!
By this time the woman is ready to have her man concentrate on her centers of sexual excitement. He can now stimulate her vulva, clitoris and nipples. She must let him know exactly how she would like to have him accomplish this, for at this point mistakes are likely to be unhelpful and may dramatically impact her arousal!
A lot of men (and women) think the clitoris is the site of woman’s most intense sexual sensation, and the source of her orgasm. But the glans of the clitoris is far more sensitive than the glans of the penis. In fact, it can be far too sensitive to respond to manual or penile stimulation. Most women stimulate the right or left side rather than the glans during masturbation.
It is the movement of the glans rather than friction upon it which produces the highest stimulation. The whole area, which includes the labia, clitoris, and vaginal entrance, is tremendously responsive and touching it is very arousing. At some point, she will be so aroused that she wants penetration. This is where a choice can be made between normal missionary or man on top intercourse and the specific technique of coital alignment.
Penetration
Normally, during conventional man on top sex, most men need to learn how to keep control over their ejaculation — though few actually do so. A long time between penetration and male ejaculation allows a woman to increase to the high plateau from which she moves readily to orgasm.
But most men have trouble with ejaculation control. The simple, harsh truth is that it isn’t easy to stop (or overcome) premature ejaculation. Conventionally, some men hold their muscles tense, or control their rate of breathing. Some avoid continuous stimulation, or banish fantasies which increase their desire. This, of course, reduces pleasure.